A bad romance...

I wish this title I borrowed from the super fierce Ms. Gaga, was like her song sounds: kind of crazy, beguiling and fun.  But, sorry folks it’s referring to the literal meaning of bad…more like, non-reciprocated adoration.  He’s just not that into you?  So now what?  It’s time to do like Dr. Phil says and “get over it”, right?  Sounds logical enough…but here comes the challenging part: actually getting over that someone. Is getting over someone a skill we get better at with time? Kind of like the first time you get your period and it really sucks and the cramps hurt, but then it’s not so bad as we (sorry boys I write what I know) get older because we “get used to it”…or does it always suck?  I’m in the midst of it, and I’m pretty much thinking it kind of always sucks.  And importantly, a period even a terrible one, only lasts max a week.  A broken/bruised heart is usually not as speedy in healing. To add insult to injury, I’m optimistic and dreamy in the way that artistic people can be….like I still believe in happy endings, and those movies where everything works out in the end, like in Love Actually. Couples overcoming circumstance,  coming together and living happily ever after (at least happily for a while), these stories still manage to get a little tear in my eye.  I will unabashedly admit it:  I’m a sap, and a romantic at heart.  Not good for moving on with the quickness, I’m sure you can understand if you’ve seen the movie or one’s like it. Then there’s this damned interactive life we live…what i’m referring to is Facebook and Twitter and blogs etc.  It enables one to electronically pour salt into their own wounds.  Short little knife like mass communications sent out to you and all their “friends”  and then if you want to suffer and are masochistically inclined you can read the responses to the status update/post/tweet from others and either 1. wonder who “they” are from, and fight pangs of jealousy or 2.  wish you could respond too, but remain completely frozen at your keyboard/phone out of sheer self-preservation.   Oh, and let us not forget the posts of pictures, the albums, mobile uploads, twit pics…you see where this is going….nothing like streaming photos of the former object of your affection to help you get on with it, right? Thus have I come to a new theory:  Getting over someone is HARDER in the age of Facebook, Myspace, and Twitter.  Possibly?  Can I blame it on that?  Will you just let me?

Next up on the menu….An Experiment:

My Dad always said, (yes my Dad I swear), “you will get over someone by finding someone else.” Great logic??  Not sure…but I’m willing to try most things at least once, as long as they won’t kill me or make me hallucinate.  This in mind, and the ebay-like allure of online shopping (for shoes, why not men?) I have a new experiment in test mode: Using Online dating to get over someone…Brilliant idea or foolish ticket to hell? Stay tuned for scientist worthy results;)

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