Why does a bully 'friend' you?

Why does a bully ‘friend’ you? Why would mine ‘friend’ me?

Maybe it is Karma?  In high school, I ended up being an aggressive person. I ended up picking on some people too. I hate that I did it. There are a few people I know I picked on.  Should I seek them out and try to talk to them?  It is likely I would get a similar response to how I feel right now. Guarded, unsure, a little displeased. 

 I think some of the people I picked on, picked on me back.  Others, I am not sure. A lot of the people I picked were people  who tormented me. Others, I am not sure.  I regret that I ever did pick on anyone.  Looking back, I know it was an attempt to deflect some of the abuse I was getting. 

I know it is no excuse.  I have thought about contacting a few people, but I do not know if they would appreciate it.  I do not know if I do. Especially because I do not know what this person wants.

I have about five people in my graduating class on my Facebook page. A few of them I am not sure I remember.  Two of them were not nice to me.  I accepted their friend requests, with reservation.  One, I may have been not nice to but I don’t think so.  The other two, I am pretty sure I had no real contact with, but  I could be wrong. 

When I started this blog, I did place an apology in my status to anyone I may have bullied just because I wasn’t sure.  Maybe I should seek out the others. It is likely they would feel the same way I do right now.  How great would that be?  At least I would place a message with the ‘friend’ request stating my purpose.

I do believe that high school was a horrible time for many people, and I think that memories and perspective change.

I never have asked for an apology, nor do I need one.  We were kids after all. I just wish that I didn’t have to go through nearly as much of that as I did. And I don’t want my children to go through it at all. I don’t think it is a requisite part of growing up.   And I don’t think that all victims feel the same.  

 What do you think? Should I seek out people I may have bullied or picked on?    I would love to know. If you don’t want to leave a comment here you can always email kindergartenbully@att.net .

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